Mindsets cannot be changed easily because the brain is created to protect ourselves. Once there are intruders (new mindset) the brain will try to resist it. However with much practicing and perseverance, it will slowly become part of you. There are plenty of mindset that can be adopted and some of this mindset are good while others are bad. Good mindset helps the person to succeed while bad mindset drags the person down. Hence it is important to note that in order for the new and good mindset to be helpful, one have to discard their old and bad mindset.
In the previous post, I introduced one of the mindset I adopt and how it changes my life. Today I will share two other mindsets that I am currently practicing. Some might be wondering why I’m covering this topic in a financial blog. I believe having the correct mindset is essential for success.
Always choose to be POSITIVE.
Positive is a choice. Everyone can choose to be positive no matter what kind of situation they are in but people tend to do the opposite due to overthinking and fear. Overthinking will lead to self-doubt and unnecessary worries while fear is just fake evidence appearing real. Combination of the both will lead to self-destruction. All the dreams you have will not be possible.
Once you choose to be positive, everything changes because you will start to look at things differently and calmly. With a positive state of mind, you will be able to think of solution to the problem. Positive thinking leads to confidence and confidence is an important element for success. Everyone has big dream and most of the time no one else other than yourself will believe you can do it. Without confidence, you will eventually end up giving up your dream. I will tell you one example of how I use this mindset in my life.
I have been approached by my colleague to join the bowling group within the company due to the lack of female participants in the group. I agreed instantly (practicing the first mindset) even though I do not know how to play the game well. After I joined, I have been added into the league unknowingly which mean I will have to represent my company to compete with other player from other companies.
This was a disaster isn’t it? Who in the right mind would agree if you know that you cannot play well? Since most people fear embarrassment, who will want to be embarrassed in front of so many people when your score for the round is 65 and your opponent is scoring more than 180?
However, I did not make a fuss to leave. I choose to think positively that this was an opportunity for me. An opportunity for me to learn from the experience player without having to pay any fees. True enough, my first match was embarrassing and my lowest score was 65. However, instead of being judged by others, many of the players end up teaching me how to play. With teachings from experience player, I did improve a little. During my second match, the lowest score I get was 90.
If I did not choose to be positive, I would have opted out from the league and I would not have the chance to pick up a new skill and make new friends. Fellow readers, the next time you face with a situation, choose to be positive and see for yourselves how things turn out differently from what you expect.
The choice is yours.
Walk the talk, don’t talk the talk.
Everyone has goals in life but why some of them are able to achieve and some of them can’t? One of the main reasons is that they only talk about their goals but too lazy to put in the effort to achieve it. Laziness is in all of us. It’s how we overcome it. You do not agree with me? Let me tell you one example I encounter.
My friends like to ask me how to get more money even though they are earning pretty decent salary. Fair enough, who doesn’t want more money? I would share with them certain promotion available online such as signing up for a credit card and get welcome gift of $x. Most of their reply will be “oh okay. Thanks for the info”. The next time you see them they will ask the same question but when I ask did u apply for the card, the answer will be “no because no time” or “aiya the gift so little only, not worth my time to get it”.
This is what I call no action talk only (NATO). When it’s time to take action, they usually end up not doing due to laziness. This analogy above is similar to your goals. There are no shortcuts in life. You will not achieve your goals overnight. Lots of hard work and effort are required. You need to take many baby steps which seems like you are wasting your time but it’s alright because you are learning through the process. I will tell you an example of what I did to get closer to my goals.
For those who know me, you would know that I am obsessed with money. Anything about money I will be more then willing to talk about it. Be it asking me question or telling me news things. I walk the talk by revolving my life around it until I became obsessed. Meeting me and talking to me can be a pain too because my entire topic revolve around money. I would usually ask questions like insurance, investment, credit card or bank accounts. This has cause many friend to distant me especially those who avoid such topic. To me, it is a norm because I have expected the path to FF to be a lonely one.
I spend my time on train rides reading blogs and surfing banks web page and forum. Although not all of them are useful, I will still be able to get different point of view from different type of people. When I read about new products which can be beneficial to me, I will take my time to read all the terms and conditions or even go down to the provider to clarify about it before I act upon it.
If I did not do my research on such topic, I will not be able to talk about it to friends or even start blogging. I will not be able to find better products to make my money work harder for me. If my goal is FF, the things I have to do are to read more and talk more about it to further understand it and to do it (invest).
The time to ACT is NOW.